Dear Fathers,I am writing this letter in regards to the annual blessing given to mothers on Mother's Day and fathers on Father's Day. Over the past few years, I've become active in an online support group for Catholic women who are experiencing the cross of infertility. While I myself have one child, I suffer from secondary infertility. I'm in the unique position to receive the blessing and yet have a heavy heart for the children that are my heart's desire. I also hear stories every year through this support group about how hard Mother's Day and Father's Day Mass is for those who are experiencing infertility, for those who have had miscarriages and for those who are single waiting to be married. It's especially difficult when you are following the teachings of the church regarding sex and birth control, are open to life and for one reason or another are not able to conceive. While many of the women and men I know accept this cross and are open to God's will, the journey is hard and can be lonely. It's even more painful when miscarriage is involved. Would you prayerfully discern making the blessing more inclusive of all women and men in their unique vocation as mothers and fathers, including spiritual motherhood and fatherhood? The spirit of this letter is not meant to be one of complaint nor entitlement. I am only attempting to bring to light a painful issue that can potentially marginalize the faithful. I trust that whatever decision you make about the blessing will be in our best interest. If you would like more information or if you have any questions, please feel free to contact me. Please know you are in my daily prayers!
God Bless You!
made for another world