This is totally off the cuff- no google searches (okay, maybe one to see all kinds of blogs, programs, books dedicated to her- I promise that I didn't click on any of them), no books, no talks. This is just where I'm at in my journey putting together what I've read and heard.
Before you even start you might want to do some relaxation here:
And get a pep talk about perfectionism here:
I've listened to Brene Brown's talks on youtube countless times this Fall. There are about 4 longer ones that I've found. Thanks Elizabeth Esther! Anyway, Brene Brown is light, she's funny and her perspective is very interesting. I'm sure some of her stuff wouldn't jive philosophically with our Church. It's definitely secular. But, she's helped me understand part of what to do with the 'in-between.' How do you live in the in-between of what you want and what your life actually is? She's helping me untie my thoughts and not be so ashamed of the life God has blessed me with.
4. Our savior said this (again from USCCB):
“Blessed are the poor in spirit,
for theirs is the kingdom of heaven.
Blessed are they who mourn
for they will be comforted.
Blessed are the meek,
for they will inherit the land.
Blessed are they who hunger and thirst for righteousness,
for they will be satisfied.
Blessed are the merciful,
for they will be shown mercy.
Blessed are the clean of heart,
for they will see God.
Blessed are the peacemakers,
for they will be called children of God.
Blessed are they who are persecuted for the sake of righteousness,
for theirs is the kingdom of heaven."
5. Then our savior said this:
“Therefore I tell you, do not worry about your life, what you will eat [or drink], or about your body, what you will wear. Is not life more than food and the body more than clothing?....Do not worry about tomorrow; tomorrow will take care of itself. Sufficient for a day is its own evil."
We are commanded not to worry!!! Thank you, Jesus!!
6. Finally, my favorite: Jesus leaves us his peace. He wants us to have peace. He doesn't want us to compare, he wants us to live the life he put us in. The more I live, the more I believe the Serenity Prayer has all the answers to the main questions in my life. After saying everyday for several years, it is sinking in:
God grant me the serenity
to accept the things I cannot change;
courage to change the things I can;
and wisdom to know the difference.
Living one day at a time;
Enjoying one moment at a time;
Accepting hardships as the pathway to peace;
Taking, as He did, this sinful world
as it is, not as I would have it;
Trusting that He will make all things right
if I surrender to His Will;
That I may be reasonably happy in this life
and supremely happy with Him
Forever in the next.
I am enough. My life is enough. It doesn't have to look like the Proverbs woman. But, she points the way for my heart: fear the Lord, think about the poor, be kind. I can take what is important from her and apply it to my life. But, what's most important is what Jesus said. Not everyone's life will look like hers. What do we do then? We trust. And we get through day by day. He sanctifies all of us who can't be the Proverbs woman. She can still be there and we can look to her. He makes is okay that we aren't her. Thank you Jesus for your word, your example, your sacrifice. I love you.